link jamz, vol. 2
vulnerability, shame, and all the above
This morning, we’re dropping off this little pterodactyl to go home to her forever family and yes, I am crying, I am crying many tears.
We’ve been fostering lil Hummus (briefly renamed to Rocket) with Wags and Walks for the past couple weeks and even though she won’t stop peeing on our plants and has a knack for pooping in my room, she’s become my daily nap partner and therefore, my best friend. I’m psyched for her to go home, but I’m already mourning our afternoon snuggles.
Miss you already, Rocky.
Every Thursday, I’m gonna be sharing what I’ve been recently consuming, and this week, a frequent theme that popped up was ~vulnerability~. This week, it seemed everything I was reading was in relation to the power in pushing shame aside in the name of GROWTH, BABY. So read on, share away, and send tissues and/or candy to my address ASAP.
What I’m reading
Why be vulnerable? by Siraad Dirshe. I am a big fan of Siraad’s on Instagram and have loved following her writings after catching her piece on NYT on Rachel Cargle.
The power in writing about yourself, by James Hamblin. Not a writer or don’t want to keep a journal? Welcome to the future of the diary: Emojiary.
After 12 years together, my relationship withstood just months of marriage, by Kate Wills.
Maybe divorce wasn’t something shameful. Maybe it could be celebrated in its own way. I started to see it as a courageous, hopeful act. Now more than ever, aren’t we supposed to be owning our failures and learning from our mistakes?
On wake up and dump him, Jillian Anthony interviews @imdatfeminist for her newsletter, Cruel Summer Book Club. So. Many. Gems. Like this one,
When you take responsibility you grow, and you don’t do the same things again because you remember how shameful it felt.
And this one,
It’s hard to be honest. When you’re in a toxic relationship you’re not even giving your friends the whole picture because it’s just so humiliating — like, no one wants to tell their friend, “He stood me up five times and then when he called me at 2am I ran to his house.” Nobody wants to admit that. And then it becomes this silent thing where everybody is getting stood up and everybody is going to his house at 2am and no one’s talking about it and no one’s addressing that that is just blatant disregard for your self-dignity.
What I’m learning
Climate migration and how global warming will impact and displace an entire generation of climate refugees, by @adapt___.
Things to not feel guilty about, by @wetheurban.
How to do self care, proactively, by Rachel Cargle.
This crazy interpretation of error and how to be wrong, by Kathryn Schulz, from her book, Being Wrong.
Error literally doesn’t exist in the first person present tense: the sentence ‘I am wrong’ describes a logical impossibility. As soon as we know that we are wrong, we aren’t wrong anymore, since to recognize a belief as false is to stop believing it.
Players gonna play
Michael Scott moment
Meet Bubbles!
Next week
We’ve got our first interview with the incredible Jackie Bamberger, who’s got the story behind this tweet, burn out, and a story more graphic than my cat food tale.
Hummus is so sweet! She'll be so happy in her furever home. Thanks so much for the shoutout!